Summary: Emil Stępień, Doda's ex-husband, discusses their stormy relationship, accusing her of manipulation, infidelity, drug use, and mistreatment of others. He addresses why he is speaking out now after years of silence and reflects on their marriage and the controversy surrounding the film "Girls from Dubai."
Reason for Speaking Out After Divorce #
- States he remained silent for 4 years after the divorce out of respect for his ex-wife and the institution of marriage.
- Recalls Doda asking for mutual respect and no public airing of grievances during their divorce hearing.
- He trusted her declaration, considering their religious marriage and shared failure.
- Claims he started being "spat on" and his name was damaged after the divorce, becoming an object of attack like her previous partners.
- Decided he can no longer turn the other cheek due to the negative impact on his loved ones (partner, parents) and business.
Living with Doda #
- Describes Doda as a person who manages her public image and interests through constant manipulation of people, institutions (including courts), and the media/journalists.
- Believes she lacks an independent view and adapts to changing circumstances (like a sailor adjusting to the wind).
- Characterizes her as transactional, willing to sacrifice relationships for personal gain, both material and immaterial.
- Claims she lacks a strong moral compass.
Doda's Previous Relationships and Motivation #
- Believes Doda entered relationships, including with him, for personal interest.
- Recalls asking Doda why she got engaged to her previous partner, Emil Hajdar, and her stated reason was to get a valuable ring. He saw this as a red flag.
- Contends the value of the ring was significant (hundreds of thousands of zloty) and the engagement was for material gain.
- Offers to confirm this alleged reason in court if Doda sues him.
- States he doesn't want to compare the value of his ring to Hajdar's.
Accusations from Doda and His Response #
- Acknowledges Doda has spoken negatively about him for years.
- Instead of defending himself, his primary motivation for speaking out is for the public to know the truth about Doda, whom he claims is falsely seen as an authority figure.
- Claims Doda draws other people into her intrigues.
- Expresses remorse for getting involved in Doda's problems with Emil Hajdar, believing her account and acting against Hajdar out of love for her at the time.
- Now believes Hajdar's version of events and apologizes to him for his past actions.
- Suggests Doda manipulates people, including journalists, due to her high level of narcissism and media connections.
- Presents a Super Express cover from 2019 alleging an affair between Hajdar and "Rafalala" as proof of Doda fabricating stories. Claims this event never happened and the article was prepared by Doda.
Doda's Characterizations of Her Ex-Partners #
- References a podcast where Doda described four ex-partners as a sex addict, alcoholic, drug addict, and total narcissist.
- Views Doda's use of these labels as cynical, hypocritical, and revealing of her own true nature.
Allegations of Infidelity #
- Claims Doda cheated on him.
- States they had an unwritten agreement not to travel separately while married.
- Recalls Doda buying him a birthday trip to the US in January 2020.
- Claims Doda was not alone in their apartment on January 25, 2020, while he was away.
- Identifies the person with her as her partner/friend/lover, Maks Hodis.
- Alleges Doda also bragged about cheating on Radek Majdan and her last partner.
- Publicly asks what Doda was doing in Morocco in 2010 and what her connection is to a certain "Mr. Marek," suggesting it relates to her stated qualifications for the "Girls from Dubai" film.
Allegations of Alcohol and Drug Use #
- States Doda "very much likes alcohol" (wine, whiskey, vodka).
- Claims Doda is addicted to "heavy drugs," specifically cocaine.
- Alleges Dariusz Pachut (her recent partner) found Doda after using drugs and a large alcohol party on multiple occasions.
- Claims Doda refused a lie detector test and addiction therapy.
- Alleges Doda boasts about carrying cocaine on planes and has been doing so for years for personal use (not dealing).
- States he has seen this and heard her admit to it.
- Claims she also used drugs during their marriage.
Doda's Public Image vs. Reality #
- Argues that despite common perception, Doda is not a good person and her public image is manipulated.
- Refutes her claim that she was in depression and wanted to commit suicide because of him, stating it is a lie to damage his reputation.
- Describes the negative impact of these claims on his life, business, and family.
- Claims Doda positions herself as a victim and an ambassador for people with depression without the authority to do so.
- Alleges Doda admitted to having two abortions in the past, not during their relationship.
Allegations of Aggression and Mistreatment of Others #
- Labels Doda's behavior as vulgar and thuggish.
- Describes the incident involving Agnieszka Szulim (formerly Szulim) and how Doda allegedly manipulated the situation.
- Claims Doda and her associate, Rafał Bogacz, blocked Szulim in a bathroom.
- Alleges Doda hit Szulim into a mirror, and that Doda pulled out her own nail to claim she was attacked.
- States Doda told him she did this for revenge for Szulim insulting her parents on a TV program.
- Describes his relationship with Doda's parents as correct and respectful, but believes they are dominated by her.
- Feels Doda is spoiled and does not return the respect shown by her parents or others.
- Claims Doda is contemptuous of her ordinary fans, only showing affection for them when cameras are present.
- States her harsh language and vocabulary negatively impacted his perception of her as a delicate woman.
Doda's Intelligence #
- Questions the public perception of Doda's exceptional IQ.
- Describes her as "foul-mouthed" and having a sharp tongue, but questions if this is intelligence or rudeness.
- Suggests even if she has a high IQ, she lacks life wisdom based on her history of public disputes with ex-partners.
Doda's Financial Status #
- States he never asked Doda about her finances during their 5-year relationship/3-year marriage.
- They had separate accounts and no prenuptial agreement.
- Claims he largely provided financially for them during the relationship.
- Believes he did not lose anything financially, viewing the experience as a learning one.
Expectations and Potential Legal Action #
- Does not expect Doda to stop criticizing him but intends to respond to every accusation.
- Is prepared to sue Doda and welcomes her suing him to present further evidence in court.
- Mentions facing several dozen unrelated charges and believes they fall under civil rather than criminal law.
"Girls from Dubai" Film Controversy #
- Believes they made a good and interesting film despite difficult circumstances (pandemic).
- Acknowledges Doda's artistic talent but states her narcissism made collaboration difficult, as it was always about "I" not "we."
- Addresses Doda's accusations of him blocking promotion and treating the film like a toy.
- Argues that promoting the film too close to the premiere date, as Doda allegedly did, was damaging to the product and investors.
- States he prevented her from accessing film materials and communicating about the film to protect its release and investor interests.
- Acknowledges Doda's significant and valuable work on the film but regrets that personal animosity on her side overshadowed the business aspect.
Future Relations with Doda #
- States Doda will never be a friend and he will not seek conversation or reconciliation with her.
- Views her as part of his past that he has closed, but acknowledges it remains open due to her actions.
- Is not trying to hate or insult her but is defending his good name and preventing her from using him to portray herself as honest and a victim.
- Wishes for her to treat him as if he doesn't exist and disappear from his life.
Doda's Relationship History and Inability to Form Bonds #
- Suggests Doda's pattern of problematic relationships with multiple partners indicates the issue may lie with her.
- Believes she doesn't want children.
- Considers her incapable of higher feelings based on his experience and what he has heard and seen.
- Claims she is jealous of other family members of her partners and causes serious arguments due to this.
- Attributes this to her narcissism, needing to be the sole focus of attention and love, which prevents forming genuine human bonds.
- Doubts she will find a man who can stay with her and start a family.
Difficult Moments in the Marriage #
- States there were many difficult days and not many good memories.
- Claims they didn't truly live together, despite being married, living in separate apartments in Warsaw due to her excuses (noise, double life concern).
- Feels they didn't build a strong bond over 5 years.
- Feels their early relationship promises didn't match reality.
- Would not enter the relationship again with current knowledge, but views the difficult experience positively as it led him to his current happy relationship.
His Current Relationship #
- Is in a relationship with Roksana Gąska.
- Describes her as a wonderful person with a good character.
- Mentions Roksana was also unfairly treated by the media regarding her ex-partner, Jacek Rozenek, who had a stroke.
- States Roksana provided him with selfless help after their breakup, contrary to media reports.
- Criticizes Rozenek for initially failing to acknowledge Roksana's help.
Doda's Potential Reaction to the Interview #
- Believes Doda should watch the interview and reflect on her life.
- Hopes she will start building her future based on honesty and genuine relationships.
- Invites her to come on the show for a conversation or a confrontation to discuss the issues raised.
- Stands by all his statements as true and is prepared to provide evidence in court.
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