STOP Talking When Your Child M

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The Problem with Talking During a Child's Tantrum #

The Importance of Showing Safety and Calm Presence #

Addressing Public Tantrums #

Summary #

This video emphasizes that during a child's tantrum, talking and reasoning are ineffective because their prefrontal cortex, which processes language, is temporarily offline due to the brain entering a "survival mode." Instead, parents should cease talking and focus on conveying safety through calm actions and a steady physical presence. The speaker illustrates this with a personal anecdote, demonstrating how quiet presence allows the child's thinking brain to come back online before any discussion can occur. For public tantrums, the advice is to create a "bubble of calm" or, if time is short, acknowledge feelings and offer a simple choice to facilitate an exit, even if it means picking the child up and leaving. The video concludes by mentioning whining as another common challenge, advising viewers to watch a separate video for guidance on that topic.

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